Our hombres can sometimes be a little machista. They expect us to
cook delicious and traditional meals daily, tend to their s*xual needs
and take care of the children — all while maintaining our s*x appeal and
a clean household. But a machista man isn’t always controlling.
On the contrary, a controlling man may emotionally be open and needy. Macho men? Not so much.
So, what makes a man controlling? Take a closer look at his behavior,
his choice of words and his manipulative tactics. Here are seven signs
that the guy you’re dating may be controlling:
1. He is always jealous.
Many Latinas love a jealous man. “Ay, he cares so much that he gets
angry when a man talks to me,” they gush. A little jealousy in a
relationship isn’t necessarily bad; as a matter of fact, it can be sexy.
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However, when a man is controlling, his jealousy triggers fits of
rage. You may be walking down the street with your hombre, and he gets
into a fist fight just because some guy glanced at you. Or worse, he
takes it out on you and embarrasses you in public.
2. He tells you what to wear.
And what you should wear is a nun habit. Your man goes into your
closet and picks out a loose-fitting, long-sleeved shirt and baggy jeans
— in the middle of summer. There’s a heat wave, and he still wants you
to cover your arms, legs, midriff, booty, everything!
He just can’t stand the thought of a man looking at his mujer. Yes, he believes that your body is his.
3. He demands you get a tattoo of him.
I would have to think twice about getting a tattoo, nevermind inking a
man’s name onto my skin! However, some women are open to the idea of a
tattoo, and many think it’s romantic.
Regardless of how you feel about the tattoo, a controlling man won’t
give you a choice. He will demand that you tattoo “Juan” in cursive on
your chest, so the world knows you belong to him!
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4. He checks your gadgets.
In today’s world, many women share their email, cell phone and social
media password with their significant other. A controlling boyfriend
will jailbreak your phone to check your Facebook status updates and
stalk the profiles of the men who have “liked” your photos. He
constantly crosses the line and checks your text messages or chats
without your knowledge or permission. He has no boundaries.
5. He doesn’t want you hanging out with your girls.
Or anyone else.
At first, you may think it’s sweet that he wants to spend all his
time with you. But often times, a controlling man isolates the woman he
dates. He will want you all to himself, and soon you won’t have any
friends or family to call your own.
6. He questions whether you love him.
A man who constantly questions your feelings is emotionally needy and
insecure. Often times, controlling men are actually very insecure. Be
cautious when a man needs constant reassurance of your love.
7. He always accuses you of cheating.
When a man accuses a woman of cheating, two things could be
happening: he is actually cheating on you (therefore, projecting his
guilt), or he is controlling. Either way, it’s bad news, chicas! You
shouldn’t have to constantly explain yourself, your associations or your
whereabouts. And, of course, if he asks to smell your lady parts, this
controlling man has gone off kilter.
Break it off, and be wary when you do. Always have someone with you
when ending a relationship with a controlling man. He will have trouble
letting you go.
